I know so many hard working moms. Single, married, partnered, complicated. Holding the family together, raising their kids, earning money, making choices, afraid of the future, working toward the future, blowing it, drinking wine, reaching for a hit o’ that if you would, trying to be better than their own childhoods, trying to be half as good as some moment they remember, crying over mom, wishing it were different, knowing it’ll never be different, buying their own mom something to keep her feet warm, dancing to Thrift Shop, dancing to Major Lazer, spitting wine when they laugh, purple teeth, a weakness for just one more pair of boots, a weakness for booze, a head for philosophy, concerned with social justice, hoping to save the bees, reaching out, taking care of children they didn’t give birth to but you’d never know, they will forever love them like their blood, and why not? So many moms screwing up, sorting it out, getting it right, letting their hearts open. I could go on with this list forever. Happy mother’s day, everyone, wherever you fall on the continuum, even if you’re the man in charge, the man who is the dad. Oh, hell. Even if you’re Jonathan Franzen, who thinks “Love your mother” is the worst environmental slogan ever, because he has a hard time with it. Let’s take care of each other, and of this place, what we’ve got. xo
The Stud Book is a spirited group portrait, full of the messiness of life. In it Drake reminds us, earnestly and poignantly (and in echt Portland fashion), of the importance of community: whether you conceive or not, you need a mate, a family, a best friend—or better yet, a gang of them. As Drake notes on the book’s very first page, not even an earthworm—or, in her visceral prose, “a hermaphroditic sex organ burrowing through dark earth”—can go it all alone.
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Thank you, Emily Chenoweth!
I so appreciate the time and thought this careful reviewer has taken with my work. Dear to me.
I’m so grateful to be given this space, and the support. The review, on OregonLive, is here.
On the eve of the official release of The Stud Book….So happy to see this review, by Tony McMillen, for Dig Boston.
The Stud Book explores the notion that while the global imperative to procreate for the good of our species may have changed, our individual imperative to have babies has not. This is despite the mounting evidence that, at least on a global scale, due to the over abundance of our species, people and the creation of more people are less important now than ever.
Monica Drake finds a dark laugh in this but she also discovers a sort of wonderfully stubborn hope in humanity and our need to keep on trying.
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